What is Gender Dysphoria / Gender Identity Disorder | How to Deal with It


Hi everyone! This video is going
to be about gender dysphoria as well as what you can do if you
are struggling with your own gender identity. Gender
dysphoria, also known as gender identity disorder, is when an
individual is uncomfortable with the sex they were assigned at
birth. This can mean someone who was born male identifies
as female, making them a transsexual, or they could
identify as another gender since gender is not binary, in
that there isn’t just male and female. There are other
variations. However, many individuals that struggle with
gender dysphoria fall under the transgender umbrella. Also,
despite the word ‘disorder’ being part of the name ‘gender
identity disorder,’ being transgender is not a mental
disorder in itself. Being trans can lead to unhealthy behavior
that can be considered a mental disorder. But, it is not a
mental disorder. I discussed this more thoroughly in a
separate video that I’ll have an annotation and a link in the
description. That video can help clear up some of the confusion
regarding being trans and having a mental disorder. While
everyone figures themselves out at different points in their
life, many individuals with gender dysphoria know at a
rather young age, some even being under the age of ten,
some even under the age of five. However, when puberty begins
to kick in, that is when the uncomfortability really begins
to hit because the individual’s body is changing, but not in
the way the individual feels comfortable with. Now, the thing
to note is that many individuals may have no idea what
transgender is, but they feel unhappy with themselves in some
way. And the interesting thing is that there are many people
that then identify as gay or lesbian because they think that
is what this whole ‘not feeling right’ thing is about. So for
instance, someone who was born as a male may begin to feel
dysphoric about their male sex. They may think, “Oh, maybe I’m
just gay,” because they find themselves attracted to males.
They come out to family and friends and being to identify
as gay, a gay male. However, the real problem here is that they
are not gay, but rather they feel as though they are
actually a female, which would essentially make them straight.
But the fact of the matter is that things are not always so
clear on the surface. You have to dig a bit to understand
yourself and what you really want. That is the first part
of discovering you have gender dysphoria. So, you have to ask
yourself if you are happy with the sex you were born as. In
other words, is the gender you identify as congruent with your
birth sex. So ask yourself some of the following questions: Am I happy living my
life as my birth sex? Do I identify as my birth sex? Do I ever question my birth sex
and wish I could change it? Do I realize that my gender, and
how I identify, is independent from my birth sex? These are all important
questions to ask. The last one is so you can realize that how
you feel, what gender you feel you are, is not the same as what
sex you were born as. So for instance, if you were born
physically a male, your sex is male, but this does not mean you
have to identify as male. You can identify as female or
another gender if you truly feel as though you are, as well as
express yourself independently of your birth sex. Again, ask
yourself these questions and when you have an answer,
question that too. I have a video that goes into greater
detail about the difference between sex and gender, so I’ll
have an annotation and a link in the description. That may help
you out if you are unsure of the difference and allow you to
understand that how you choose to identify is not the same as
what you were born as. Anyway, as an example, I will ask
myself, “Do I identify as my birth sex?” The answer for me is
‘no.’ Then I may question that with, “Why don’t I feel I
identify as my birth sex?” The answer for me is that I feel as
though I am truly a female on the inside. Then I can come to
the realization that I can be female, and express myself in a
feminine way, despite being born male. And then I can look into
options for me that can help me physically change my birth sex,
male, into what I identify as, female. I did a video in greater
detail about the stages of transitioning. So, I’ll have
an annotation and a link in the description to that video for
anyone who is interested. In that video I discussed ways
you can start to make steps at becoming the gender you identify
as. Related to that video, the first step is to always
understand yourself. Question yourself with some of the
questions I shared just a moment ago, understand yourself on a
deeper level so you know who you are and what you want. Only you
can figure it out for yourself. You cannot ask someone else what
they feel you should do if you cannot help yourself and get to
the root as to why you feel this way and what you want to do.
Learn about yourself, and most importantly, find a proper
conclusion of who you really are. Because only you are able
to change your life and can make the decisions that will help you
love yourself and identify as who you feel you are. Now I
thought I’d share a bit about myself and my dysphoria. I
pretty much knew I wanted to be a female under the age of ten.
However, it was when puberty hit that I really started to hate
myself and my body. I wanted to be a female so badly and would
wish and hope for it every day and night. For me personally,
there was never a point that I didn’t know I was trans. I
may not have heard the term ‘transgender,’ but I knew I was
female. I never thought I was gay because I was attracted to
females. So technically now, after transitioning and
identifying as a female, is when I was gay. I am gay because I
am a female that is attracted to females. Anyway, I starting
making steps at becoming the woman that I felt I was on the
inside. I did this, first by understanding myself better,
realizing where I wanted to be and how I was going to get
there. I went online and read about other trans people, and
watched a bunch of other trans people online. Learning about
their experiences helped me understand the process better
and ultimately, myself. Once I had a clear idea of where I
wanted to be, I came out to my family, started seeing a
therapist, and later went on hormones and even had sex
reassignment surgery to become the woman I envisioned in my
mind that was me the entire time. My dysphoria came from
everything, my entire body. I hated being a male, I hated my
male genitals, everything. This is something that can vary from
person to person. You may feel dysphoria for how you look, and
not your genitals. Some trans people may just start dressing
as the gender they identify as, some may take hormones, some
may get surgeries. There are all varying degrees so don’t feel
pressured if you do not want to go through with something since
everyone has different things they are uncomfortable with
about their sex and what they want to change and how they want
to transition, if they want to transition at all. So for me, my
dysphoria was lifted when I felt complete with myself, which
was after my sex reassignment surgery. That is a major change,
but beyond that point I have not had any moments of questioning
my decisions, viewing myself as incomplete, or even worse,
feeling as though I identify as what I am not. So, I feel
myself, my mind and body is congruent, and I have no
regrets. However with that being said, there was a few issues
that I ran into after surgery. This was most likely
because surgery is a major, life changing event. The first issue
was mostly during the first year when I would wake up in the
middle of the night and be filled with so much regret.
It was almost as if I lost all memory of my entire transition
and was like, “What the heck did I do to myself?” I would be
terrified about, not only the surgery, but my entire life and
the decisions I’ve made. I felt like a fool. All of this was
also influenced by other issues I was experiencing at the time,
primarily with my mental health. But, I managed to overcome that
and it hasn’t happened since, and on the rare occasion that
it does, it’s to a much lesser degree. And the other problem I
experienced, which really only happened once, maybe a second
time to a lesser degree, was when I was in the middle of
helping my grandmother with something that I believe I
helped her with in the past when I was a male. In the middle of
helping her, I dissociated into this former male self from many
years prior. I had all memory of what I did to myself and my body
but I was male me again. And all I remember doing was that I
froze, didn’t say a single thing, and my grandmother looked
at me and said, “What’s wrong?” And, all I could do was
slowly back away just completely confused and out of it and
terrified. The entire event lasted maybe ten or so minutes
before I felt pretty much back to myself. But, it was
terrifying for the simple fact that it felt I was back living
as a male again. All those negative thoughts and memories,
the dysphoria, everything was back and it was scary. But
anyway, I made it through and have not had any regrets or
issues since. So, definitely realize that there may be times
that the dysphoria will come back. So in conclusion,
gender dysphoria is when you are questioning your gender identity
and feel as though your birth sex doesn’t match what you
identify as. It is difficult coming to terms with, but only
you can know for sure who you really are and can get to the
concision of what you want your life to be. I hope this video
was informative and helpful. Thanks for watching!

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What is Gender Dysphoria / Gender Identity Disorder | How to Deal with It


Hi everyone! This video is going
to be about gender dysphoria as well as what you can do if you
are struggling with your own gender identity. Gender
dysphoria, also known as gender identity disorder, is when an
individual is uncomfortable with the sex they were assigned at
birth. This can mean someone who was born male identifies
as female, making them a transsexual, or they could
identify as another gender since gender is not binary, in
that there isn’t just male and female. There are other
variations. However, many individuals that struggle with
gender dysphoria fall under the transgender umbrella. Also,
despite the word ‘disorder’ being part of the name ‘gender
identity disorder,’ being transgender is not a mental
disorder in itself. Being trans can lead to unhealthy behavior
that can be considered a mental disorder. But, it is not a
mental disorder. I discussed this more thoroughly in a
separate video that I’ll have an annotation and a link in the
description. That video can help clear up some of the confusion
regarding being trans and having a mental disorder. While
everyone figures themselves out at different points in their
life, many individuals with gender dysphoria know at a
rather young age, some even being under the age of ten,
some even under the age of five. However, when puberty begins
to kick in, that is when the uncomfortability really begins
to hit because the individual’s body is changing, but not in
the way the individual feels comfortable with. Now, the thing
to note is that many individuals may have no idea what
transgender is, but they feel unhappy with themselves in some
way. And the interesting thing is that there are many people
that then identify as gay or lesbian because they think that
is what this whole ‘not feeling right’ thing is about. So for
instance, someone who was born as a male may begin to feel
dysphoric about their male sex. They may think, “Oh, maybe I’m
just gay,” because they find themselves attracted to males.
They come out to family and friends and being to identify
as gay, a gay male. However, the real problem here is that they
are not gay, but rather they feel as though they are
actually a female, which would essentially make them straight.
But the fact of the matter is that things are not always so
clear on the surface. You have to dig a bit to understand
yourself and what you really want. That is the first part
of discovering you have gender dysphoria. So, you have to ask
yourself if you are happy with the sex you were born as. In
other words, is the gender you identify as congruent with your
birth sex. So ask yourself some of the following questions: Am I happy living my
life as my birth sex? Do I identify as my birth sex? Do I ever question my birth sex
and wish I could change it? Do I realize that my gender, and
how I identify, is independent from my birth sex? These are all important
questions to ask. The last one is so you can realize that how
you feel, what gender you feel you are, is not the same as what
sex you were born as. So for instance, if you were born
physically a male, your sex is male, but this does not mean you
have to identify as male. You can identify as female or
another gender if you truly feel as though you are, as well as
express yourself independently of your birth sex. Again, ask
yourself these questions and when you have an answer,
question that too. I have a video that goes into greater
detail about the difference between sex and gender, so I’ll
have an annotation and a link in the description. That may help
you out if you are unsure of the difference and allow you to
understand that how you choose to identify is not the same as
what you were born as. Anyway, as an example, I will ask
myself, “Do I identify as my birth sex?” The answer for me is
‘no.’ Then I may question that with, “Why don’t I feel I
identify as my birth sex?” The answer for me is that I feel as
though I am truly a female on the inside. Then I can come to
the realization that I can be female, and express myself in a
feminine way, despite being born male. And then I can look into
options for me that can help me physically change my birth sex,
male, into what I identify as, female. I did a video in greater
detail about the stages of transitioning. So, I’ll have
an annotation and a link in the description to that video for
anyone who is interested. In that video I discussed ways
you can start to make steps at becoming the gender you identify
as. Related to that video, the first step is to always
understand yourself. Question yourself with some of the
questions I shared just a moment ago, understand yourself on a
deeper level so you know who you are and what you want. Only you
can figure it out for yourself. You cannot ask someone else what
they feel you should do if you cannot help yourself and get to
the root as to why you feel this way and what you want to do.
Learn about yourself, and most importantly, find a proper
conclusion of who you really are. Because only you are able
to change your life and can make the decisions that will help you
love yourself and identify as who you feel you are. Now I
thought I’d share a bit about myself and my dysphoria. I
pretty much knew I wanted to be a female under the age of ten.
However, it was when puberty hit that I really started to hate
myself and my body. I wanted to be a female so badly and would
wish and hope for it every day and night. For me personally,
there was never a point that I didn’t know I was trans. I
may not have heard the term ‘transgender,’ but I knew I was
female. I never thought I was gay because I was attracted to
females. So technically now, after transitioning and
identifying as a female, is when I was gay. I am gay because I
am a female that is attracted to females. Anyway, I starting
making steps at becoming the woman that I felt I was on the
inside. I did this, first by understanding myself better,
realizing where I wanted to be and how I was going to get
there. I went online and read about other trans people, and
watched a bunch of other trans people online. Learning about
their experiences helped me understand the process better
and ultimately, myself. Once I had a clear idea of where I
wanted to be, I came out to my family, started seeing a
therapist, and later went on hormones and even had sex
reassignment surgery to become the woman I envisioned in my
mind that was me the entire time. My dysphoria came from
everything, my entire body. I hated being a male, I hated my
male genitals, everything. This is something that can vary from
person to person. You may feel dysphoria for how you look, and
not your genitals. Some trans people may just start dressing
as the gender they identify as, some may take hormones, some
may get surgeries. There are all varying degrees so don’t feel
pressured if you do not want to go through with something since
everyone has different things they are uncomfortable with
about their sex and what they want to change and how they want
to transition, if they want to transition at all. So for me, my
dysphoria was lifted when I felt complete with myself, which
was after my sex reassignment surgery. That is a major change,
but beyond that point I have not had any moments of questioning
my decisions, viewing myself as incomplete, or even worse,
feeling as though I identify as what I am not. So, I feel
myself, my mind and body is congruent, and I have no
regrets. However with that being said, there was a few issues
that I ran into after surgery. This was most likely
because surgery is a major, life changing event. The first issue
was mostly during the first year when I would wake up in the
middle of the night and be filled with so much regret.
It was almost as if I lost all memory of my entire transition
and was like, “What the heck did I do to myself?” I would be
terrified about, not only the surgery, but my entire life and
the decisions I’ve made. I felt like a fool. All of this was
also influenced by other issues I was experiencing at the time,
primarily with my mental health. But, I managed to overcome that
and it hasn’t happened since, and on the rare occasion that
it does, it’s to a much lesser degree. And the other problem I
experienced, which really only happened once, maybe a second
time to a lesser degree, was when I was in the middle of
helping my grandmother with something that I believe I
helped her with in the past when I was a male. In the middle of
helping her, I dissociated into this former male self from many
years prior. I had all memory of what I did to myself and my body
but I was male me again. And all I remember doing was that I
froze, didn’t say a single thing, and my grandmother looked
at me and said, “What’s wrong?” And, all I could do was
slowly back away just completely confused and out of it and
terrified. The entire event lasted maybe ten or so minutes
before I felt pretty much back to myself. But, it was
terrifying for the simple fact that it felt I was back living
as a male again. All those negative thoughts and memories,
the dysphoria, everything was back and it was scary. But
anyway, I made it through and have not had any regrets or
issues since. So, definitely realize that there may be times
that the dysphoria will come back. So in conclusion,
gender dysphoria is when you are questioning your gender identity
and feel as though your birth sex doesn’t match what you
identify as. It is difficult coming to terms with, but only
you can know for sure who you really are and can get to the
concision of what you want your life to be. I hope this video
was informative and helpful. Thanks for watching!

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