Tony Robbins: Getting Exactly What You Want ( Tony Robbins Inspiration )

Today is about how to get what you
really want out of your life on a consistent basis now order get what you
really want you got to know what it is which for most people is a unique
concept seriously when I ask people what do you really want the answer I usually
get is something like well I don’t know or something general like well I wish I
had a better relationship I wish I could start my own business I wish had more
money I wish it could be more successful the challenge with all those responses
they’re so general and they’re not what you really want anyway people don’t want
relationships people don’t want money they don’t want businesses they don’t
want to be thinner what we all want are the things we think we’re going to get
from those changes in our lives everything that you really want your
life comes down to one thing you want some kind of change in how you feel or
what I call a change of state the state of mind or body you’re in at that moment
of time we all want to change how we feel think about it the only reason you
want more money you don’t want little pieces of paper with pictures of
deceased notables on it do you of course not you want money because of what you
think it’ll give you you think it’ll give you more freedom more fun or the
ability to give to other people you believe it’s going to lead to some kind
of pleasure if you want it say I want a business listen I know a lot of people
in business who don’t want their business anymore the bottom line is it’s
not the business you want it’s what you think a business will give you the
feeling changes you think it’ll give you somebody says I want to get married they
want to get married because of what they think that will give them or I want a
relationship they think that’s going to give them a certain kind of feeling
that’s what drives all of our behaviors challenge me on this see if you can find
an exception is there anything in your life that you really really want that
the reason you want it doesn’t come down to eventually some feeling you’re gonna
get if this thing happens in your life I’ll tell you over and over again no
matter what exception someone has tried to follow it if I keep asking him why do
you want that but why do you want that but why do you want that eventually they
get to a point where they go well because it makes me feel good and so
that’s what we really want we want to feel good we want to have those special
feelings inside in other words we just want to be able to manage our emotions
manager States and create what we really want emotionally analyze everything we
do we’ve already said is to create pleasure that’s an emotion
and avoid pain that’s an emotion – and if we want to change our behavior the
quickest way to do that is change how we feel I mean think about it haven’t you
had a situation in your life where you did something and after you did it you
say to yourself I can’t believe I said that I can’t believe I did that that was
so stupid I’ve never in a situation like that I
mean an area you’re normally pretty smart in you just did something really
dumb I know I have plenty of times haven’t you also had the opposite
experience though where you want a role where things were just flowing it was
like you were unstoppable and you don’t even know how you were doing it you were
just like flowing you know where after you did it you know somebody said you do
that you know yeah that was me okay and you don’t know how you pulled it off you
were rather proud of it though having had those kind of times you’re just on a
roll so I got a question for you what’s the difference in your behavior why is
it in one situation you perform brilliantly in another situation you
perform well how do we say brutally the difference is not your ability what we
do at any moment in time in that moment is based on the state that our mind
embodies in at that moment in time in other words what people can do it’s
absolutely incredible what they will do is usually disappointing and the
difference is not their capability but rather what stay to the end right now if
every time they think about public speaking they associate fear or pain
that’s going to change their state and also they’re going to feel tighten their
body and a whole emotional state will change they’re not going to get the most
of themselves but if whenever they think of public speaking they think of
absolute pleasure they’re going to be in a great state of mind and they’re gonna
get more out of themselves I mean think about it when you’re feeling really
frustrated do you behave the same ways and you’re feeling like you’re on a roll
when things are flowing obviously not you have the same ability but things act
and behave differently coming out of you you speak differently you communicate
differently everything changes I’ll give you another example have you ever
forgotten something simple like your own home telephone number or address or how
to spell the word the I’ve had one of those enlightening experiences now you
know how to spell the word how come you couldn’t remember the
answer is because you’re and what I call a stupid state surprise you’re in a
state of mind where your brain wasn’t able to get all the answers the answers
are there but couldn’t get there so I believe one of
the most important things probably the most important thing that you and I can
do in our lives to create the power and joy and passion that we really want is
to learn to manage our own states of mind in fact think of the cost of not
managing them if you don’t manage your emotional state
it’ll cost you virtually everything you want your life friends family success
and just the joy that every one of us wants to experience on a daily basis hey
let me ask you a question is what happens in your life the thing
that determines how you feel at any moment in time yes or no in other words
it doesn’t matter whether or not for example the economy is doing really
strong as to whether or not you feel good
most people say no some people say will you bet now does it matter how your
relationships are going does that determine how you feel is how you feel
determined by the weather by how much Sun or rain there is is it determined by
how other people treat you I’m here to tell you the answer that is no I’m not
saying that doesn’t compliment or support you feeling one way or another
I’m saying how you feel at any moment in time is purely designed and the result
of how you are directing your own mind and body at that moment what I’m saying
to you is no matter what is happening your life you are in control of your own
States and once you understand that number one and number two you use that
ability you now have control over your life at a whole new level and you have
more fun and joy and passion you ever dreamed of once you take that
responsibility and take that control now for some people when they say well that
seems like a heavy responsibility well look at the opposite what’s the price of
not managing your states well I’ll ask you a question what is John Belushi
Elvis Presley Freddie Prinze Jimi Hendrix Janis Joplin and Marilyn
Monroe what they all have in common they’re all people never learned how to
manage your state that’s what they all were people that had every reason in the
world to be happy by anybody else’s standards but who destroyed themselves
little two killed themselves in the end I mean Belushi’s one of my favorite
examples why cuz I like this guy didn’t you
wasn’t this a fun guy I mean if you were to think of somebody didn’t he feel like
this guy that you could connect with I don’t know about you but I really
enjoyed him and millions of other people did as well he had what most people
think would make them happy he had all these people that loved him appreciated
his work he got to be creative he was in movies he was in television he was on
Broadway I mean here was a guy that was spontaneous
he had a great family a totally loved em he had all the money and fame that most
people think that they could possibly want to need and yet he’s not here how
come he’s dead why not because of old age you’ll recall
but because this man did not know how to control his own emotions within himself
and he tried to change the way he was feeling by using drugs use drugs as a
way to change his state and he’s no longer here and neither the other people
I mentioned on this list think about it there’s a major price in our managing
your state and in managing your state there’s major rewards now let’s contrast
Belushi with a friend of mine his name is w Mitchell one of the people in the
world that I only love most but also have the most respect for daddy
Mitchell’s a unique guy 15 years ago he had a unique experience one that most
people would never forget he was driving his motorcycle 65 miles an hour down
freeway when something caught his attention when he looked over while he
continued to drive forward he got fixed on something I don’t have you ever done
that he got stuck there a little too long well when he looked up he was
traveling 65 miles an hour right into the back of a Mack truck that had
stopped in front of him in a last-minute split-second decision to try and save
his own life he slammed himself on the ground and he slid 65 miles an hour
underneath this truck across the pavement then the worst thing happened
the gas cap popped off fuel spilled out all over the place and then from the
friction exploded and ignited three-quarters of his skin was burned
off his entire face is mutilated his fingers burned all the way down to the
knuckles he woke up two weeks later in a hospital bed in searing pain fearing to
even breathe now for most people at this point they say hey I’m out of here why
stick around in this body I’d rather just die but not only did he not die
please become an example of true possibility for people all over the
country and this gentleman could not even take
drugs because his body was in such bad shape but when people met him they
thought he must be on drugs cuz he seems so up you know they go in and talk to
may feel bad and goes hey it’s over we just got to move on his mother said we
just must not realize how bad it is well the reality is he just made a decision
he decided that he was going to manage a state why because he saw the alternative
is much more painful he said look I got one or two choices I can feel bad
emotionally about everything I have lost and just make my total life a mess
emotionally and have more pain to add to my physical pain or I can focus on what
I’m gonna do which means I can at least focus on something that could bring me
some pleasure and get rid of my focus on the physical pain and that’s what he did
his life has become such an example because he kept managing his emotions
now not only did he do that but within three years he managed himself so well
they got back into business even though it didn’t look too terribly attractive
but he ended up going into business and becoming extremely successful the new
company developed after his accident became the number one employer of its
type in the state of Vermont he became a millionaire he even learned to fly
airplanes now that’s not the end of the story about eight years later he’s
flying his airplane with three of the friends in Colorado and he made himself
a rather big mistake he didn’t go through his checklist and he didn’t
notice that there was frost that had developed on the wing and when he took
off he crashed three people walked away he was not one of them he was paralyzed
from the waist down for life so they cut off his toes since he didn’t need them
anymore and sewed them on his hands so he’d have something to be able to grasp
things with he’s stuck in a wheelchair now for life of course he doesn’t look
at his stuck in a wheelchair in fact you say at this point he must
have given up right no even after his wife left him he said look I don’t want
to be around a fried cripple even after all that he still didn’t give up he
turned around and the city he was living in in Colorado had some major problems
he decided to come the mayor of that town after that he decided to run for
lieutenant governor of the state of Colorado he placed third in a group of
six and he ran on the issues not on a sympathy vote
he campaigned door-to-door now remember this guy didn’t look too terribly good
fact used to wear a button that said send me to the governor’s mansion and I
won’t just be another pretty face kind of a nice way to interrupt people’s
patterns and make them associate something new to you now I didn’t win
the lieutenant governor’s place he still we give up he now has his own radio show
in Colorado and he has found the woman of his dreams and remarried so I’ve got
to tell you that if you start to tell me well gosh Tony I call these problems
it’s hard to manage my state just think about W Mitchell but I look at somebody
like Belushi and see all that he had and I look at something like Mitchell who
seems to have all these challenges but it’s so happy so successful such a sense
of possibility it becomes clear to me that I have no excuse to ever not manage
my state on a consistent basis no matter how big the problems may seem you’re
much better than anybody like that might ever hope to be so how do we manage our
state’s well one remember I believe virtually everything in life comes down
to why – first then how – I believe if you want to succeed you got to have 80%
of success it’s figuring out why to succeed why to manage your state for
example 20% is how here’s the house let’s do it quickly and let’s just get
right to doing it and doing some exercises there are two primary ways to
control your state of mind and body they are number one controlling the way you
use your physical body what we call your physiology and number two controlling
your mental focus that is what you pay attention to what you think about what
you picture what you say to yourself today we’re going to focus on how to use
our physical bodies to create the emotions that we want in any moment in
time and then on your next state we’re going to work on how to control our
focus how to control the mental imagery and pictures and things that we think
about in a way that immediately changes our state as well let’s start and focus
again today on physical movement not what you think about something here in
order to feel anything in your life you feel it through your nervous system
through your physical body now if I told you I know someone who is totally
depressed I bet you could tell me about the way they move or even their posture
and you would probably have an accurate representation in other words if I told
you about someone I know that’s totally depressed and let’s say they’re outside
your door right now and I said to you for a hundred thousand
describe for me what is this person like what’s their posture like for example
what would you say most people say slumped over where is this person’s head
most people say down where their eyes again most people say down where is this
person’s breathing is it full or shallow again most people say shallow and where
is this person’s facial expressions are there muscles in their face pulled up
and tight or they down and slack again most people say slack how did you match
up with these descriptions again if you’re like most people most of those
descriptions match the picture you have in your mind why is it that when we
think of a depressed person we think of somebody just physically hunched over a
little bit looking down talking a little bit more slowly with their eyes down and
a breathing shallow and their facial muscles slack the answer is in order to
get depressed you got to work at it it’s not easy you have to use your body in a
certain specific way I mean try something ridiculous with me for a
moment won’t you sit up right now in your transfect if you’re not driving
stand up if you’re driving that would be difficult but if you’re sitting stand up
for a second if you would and if you’re sitting and you’re in a car then sit up
but I want you to stand up ideally stand tall breathing fully really strong
breathe fully and I want you to look up towards your ceiling now as you’re
standing a breathing tall looking at your ceiling what are we doing something
really ridiculous really dumb put a huge silly grin on your face go ahead try it
oh come on nobody’s noticing you’re by yourself and if there are another thing
then you’ll get their attention anyway put a big grin on your face look at the
ceiling listen to me now now what I want you to do while you stay standing tall
your shoulders back breathing fully with this big grin on your face I want you to
get depressed without changing any aspect of your body don’t change your
facial expression oh come on you can do it hang in there get the breath no no
you know so you’re cheating I can tell I’m in the room you drop those shoulders
if you drop your head if you stop breathing or if you stop smiling it
doesn’t count stand tall breathing big big smile looking at the ceiling that’s
right and get depressed without changing all right well if you can’t change and
just stay happy and sit down there’s my point
he might say what does this got to do with state management are you saying
every time I don’t feel good I should stand up tall stare and grin at the
ceiling yes now there are many ways to do this but
this is one my point is this how come when you stand tall and you’re breathing
of the big grin on your face how come you don’t feel depressed the answer is
because it’s pretty difficult because you’re sending a totally different
message to your brain see the way we move our facial muscles the way we
gesture the way we physically walk the pace at which we talk all of these
things determine how we feel in any given moment if you don’t like the way
you’re feeling rather than try and pump yourself up intellectually won’t feel
good I feel good I feel good or doing too much after making Graff feel good I
build it I feel good I feel good your brain goes B s that’s not enough what
you’ve got to do is change the way you’re moving I mean think about it when
you were growing up didn’t you have a parent that told you hey look if you’re
depressed go do something why did that work because when you go do something
you change the way you move you change the way you breathe you change what
you’re focusing on or what you’re paying attention to and wham-o you have an
emotional change a state change if you will so I want you to realize the power
of your own physical body when I was struggling I had no idea the power my
body I was at the effect but you know what I still use these tools I just used
them in the wrong way hey listen you already know the power of your body when
you don’t like the way you feel what you usually do I’d say what most Americans
do they do something to change the way they feel by changing their body by
changing their biochemistry what do they do they do things like drink alcohol why
because the minute you drink alcohol does it change your state you bet you
behave differently when you’re in a different feeling state you better
believe it there goes your man I sure do the bottom
line is you changed your biochemistry soon as you did that that was changing
physiology and your emotions and feelings and behaviors change instantly
now a lot of people aren’t Society and they don’t like how they feel they
change their body and change the way they feel by using cigarettes they smoke
and therefore they breathe differently and they breathe differently they feel
differently when they feel differently they behave differently so they don’t
like kind of feeling they feel a little tight to feel a bit frustrated feel a
little stressed they smoke a cigarette and they think the cigarette makes them
feel better what makes them feel better is the fact that they’re taking nice
deep slow breaths why not try it without the cigarette what a concept amazing the
bottom line is you can change just by changing your breathing alone
now what else do we do well a lot of people don’t like the way they feel what
do they do they eat there we go I don’t feel good they eat and then they
get fat they look in the mirror they don’t like how they look maksim feel
worse so they don’t like the way they feel so they eat tomorrow all right
they’re caught up in that loop again have you ever been there so food is
another way we try and change our physical body in order do it some people
just go to sleep and some people do things like go
shopping or watch TV but we’re going to talk about that in your next tape that
was our people that are changing what they’re focusing on but the primary way
most of us try and change how he feels by changing the way we use our physical
body drugs is the most obvious example we’ve already talked about that
cocaine why because it changes their state rapidly that’s why people still
purchase it even though it destroys their life simultaneously they don’t
focus on that the point is any change in your physical body makes an immediate
radical change and the way that you feel so what you’ve got to learn to do is use
this to your advantage instead of being at the effect of things immediately
change your emotion so right now let me give you a frame of reference about what
I’m saying I learned a long time ago that if I really wanted to succeed on an
ongoing basis I probably needed to measure my level of emotion my level of
intensity I got a lot of this by working with professional athletes I noticed
that most athletes are really conscious of and pay attention to managing their
emotions in their state you watch the tennis player and every time before hits
the ball he bounces the ball the exact same way the exact same rhythm kind of
anchors himself if you will it triggers himself back in the state football
players do it differently and they grab their other buddy’s head like a lamb or
lamb and smack heads with him and they feel good now baseball players they spit
you know grab their legs and they’ll scratch the ground but they do certain
things every time to get themself in state and as I started work with
professional athletes people like the Los Angeles Dodgers or the United States
Army or individual Olympic athletes every one of them focused on are they
ready or not kind of check in their state but you see in life I think life
is not black and white I look at life as having many hues and colors and shades
so one day I pull one these guys aside and I said look it’s not are you ready
or you’re not let’s try a stupid game okay let’s pretend we’re going to
measure your level of power and readiness on a scale from zero to ten
as you’re dead ten is your absolutely unstoppable I said where are you on that
scale and I said well I’m about level seven six and a half seven I said well
you’re about to bat right now against Dwight Gooden tell me if you stay at
level seven what’s going to happen you know is amazing
instantly he could tell me when he realized where he was he said I’ll
either ground out or I’ll pop up or I’m gonna be in a situation where I’m gonna
strike out I said what level do you need to be out on a scale from zero to ten to
be successful Dwight Gooden he’s at level 12 okay that gives me a frame of
reference so you also need to know where you need to be to be successful now with
an athlete it’s pretty clear if for peak performance they got to be at level 10
or above if you were on a scale from zero to ten but is it your life just as
important as an athlete if you’re gonna go in right now and you’re gonna
influence your son or daughter to do something like get excited about their
schoolwork how are you gonna do that if you’re at level three it’s not gonna
happen too often I see parents of God just can’t motivate my children I just
don’t understand why I taught them about all the reasons why I should really go
for it but it just doesn’t seem to work do you have any suggestions miss
Drummond I’ll say yeah try talking a little faster for your children see the
way we use our voice will affect our state so you have a lot here I want to
share with you in a short period of time so I speed up a little bit how would you
feel if I said well ladies and gentlemen this is day five and today what we’re
going to learn to do is manage our states of mind and emotion and over the
next 30 days of this program I want you for hours at a time
to listen to my voice after you came out of a deep trance and turned off the tape
I doubt very seriously if we create very much change I’m not saying it’s not
appropriate to talk in a more relaxed way than I am in this frenzy base that
I’m sharing with you to try and get everything in but what I am saying is
make sure that you’re an appropriate state for what it is you’re trying to
accomplish does that make sense from zero to ten where do you need to be
to be effective at a given task if you want somebody feel loved by you you
probably don’t love it okay that probably won’t work either so everything
is context related but I’m asking you today to commit yourself for the next
four or five days even though we’re doing other exercises to looking at what
state are you living in in your life if you want to look at the state of your
life look at the level of intensity and joy and passion you’re creating where
are you today on a scale from zero to ten
or better yet before you started this 30-day program where were you do you
remember that first day before you got the tape program or anything else where
were you on a scale from zero to ten you remember where you were first of all
think about it for a moment if you would where were you what was your state like
where were you on a scale from zero to ten now I want you to think of something
where were you after you finished that first tape on a scale from zero to ten
most people that we followed up with an interviewed with are usually at level 8
or above and when they started out they were in level 6 or 5 or 4 or 3 and so
what I want you to do is do it without me you don’t need me to change your
state you need you you need to move your body differently and need to pay
attention to where you are use the state that’s most appropriate for where you
need to be for the given situation so let me give you first of all some
specifics about how you could change your body
I’ve mentioned a lot of them but let’s be really precise the number one way
that you can change the way you feel any moment of time is to change the way you
move the reason is this in fact you might want to remember this phrase
emotion is created by motion the way you move your physical body is the fastest
way of changing your emotions so for example if I’m not feeling passionate
and I want to instead of pumping myself up all I have to do is clap my hands or
move my hands rapidly I make a rapid gesture not a little minor one where I
just push my hands a little bit and then bring it back at a slow pace but I mean
speed acceleration if you will if you speed up the quality of your movements
you will instantly change your emotional state and your intensity so try it right
now even while you’re listening to me here’s what I want you to do take your
hands and put them together this so that you’re
touching them almost like in a praying motion and what I want you to do when I
say now is at the pace I say I want you to pull them apart and just gradually
pull them out to your sides at the base that I can’t like one two three four
okay and by timing it for you should be level with your shoulders okay let’s try
it your hands are together there’s no phantom so how you feel ready 1 2 3 4
panting hands back together 1 2 3 4 again 1 2 3 4 again 1 2 3 4 this is
known as a state of absolute boredom right so let’s try something new let’s
try moving more rapidly this time so 1 2 3 4 when I say now I want you to pull
your hands apart and don’t limit them to the length of your shoulders I want you
to literally pull them apart and pull them out as far as you can like
extending your entire wingspan now be careful on this look around you before
you do this to make sure you don’t hit anything and let’s have some fun do
something silly I know it seems ridiculous but just try it now if you’re
driving this is not useful keep one hand at least on the wheel and
try it with the other one okay here we go hands are together when I say now I
want you to literally bring might explode them out to your sides and
extend your fingers and everything out as far as and go though what you’re
gonna take your hands and make them go as fast as they can apart all the way
out and extend them ready 1 2 3 go hmm and just feel it and bring it together
again enjoy clap again and do it again how does fast you can’t go faster you
can bring them in and again out as fast you can
again in again out fat Boop now if you do this about 10 times you will feel
what we call a state change do you feel it now now I know this may sound weird
in Missouri but ok Tony what am I supposed to do create this wings man
every time I need to change state no what I’m saying is you must learn to
develop what I call power moves what a power move is to me is finding a certain
type of gesture or a couple of them that no matter how bad I was feeling or
frustrated or tired or whatever the case may be that I can make this movement and
instantly instantly I feel strong instantly I feel resourceful instantly I
feel like I can turn things around you need to develop what those are and you
already have them because you’ve had times in your life when you felt great
how are you moving at that time that’s the first clue in fact what I often do
with people’s get them to stand up and walk around the room and notice how
would they walk they felt totally successful
I mean unstoppable try it right now oh you’re going while I’m in the car great
you’re in the car and you can try this later on but if you’re actually
listening me and you’re not in the car stand up right now and trying to come on
come on don’t no don’t just listen to me stand up come on come on come on I’m
watching you I’m there you can know this I want to do is stand up and walk around
the room and what I want you to do is first of all walk the way you normally
walk just you know walk around in a circle or walk straight back and forth
notice how that feels come on you can do it there you go now
what I’m waiting to do now is make a state change and I want you to if you
would imagine that you feel absolutely strong and unstoppable I mean in your
power and what I want you to do is just walk around the room as if you felt
unstoppable and powerful and move your body the way you would be if you were
unstoppable and powerful go ahead and try it right now go ahead walk on the
room and actually strut the way you would strut if you felt unstoppable and
powerful make a gesture to the way you would if you felt unstoppable and then
try go back the opposite again go to feeling not confident not sure and walk
around I’m not sure about whether you can succeed making gestures like you’re
not sure feel the difference in your body I want you to get an example of
that then back to confident again make it strong they say what if I’m listening
in the car I’ll be listening in the car all the way to do a sit right now or
even if you’re sitting down come back with me right now sit down what I want
you to do is just notice how you can change your state from being bored and
tired of feeling energized just by changing your body so try this first of
all sit the way you be sitting right now if you had five times more energy than
any other time you can remember come on go for it don’t just listen if you’re
just gonna listen this tape and not follow through turn it off but if you’re
going to go for it make changes then play with me okay sit up in your chair
right now come on sit up the way you’d be sitting if you had five times more
energy than any other time breathe right now the way you be breathing if you felt
strong and excited and energized put a facial expression on your face right now
I can have a few felt totally passionate and excited you know it doesn’t look
like this come on but a big grin on your face a big feeling of energy
there you go good and make sure you gesture that way notice how this feels
now if you don’t feel any changes because you’ve not made a radical enough
body change that has changed your body really major create more tension more
excitement whatever it takes now go from this state to being a state of boredom
okay sit the way you’re sitting if you were
bored and tired and just notice how that feels
go ahead really bored and tired you know then you’re sitting there bored and
tired I got a question for you did you change your body to do it you bet you
did what did you change to get bored and tired well did you notice anything
happened to your head there to go down did you relaxing the muscles what
happened to your breathing did it change about your facial expression does your
muscles go slumping or slack I’ll try this get back to energized as
fast you can all come on play with me what I want you to do just for a moment
is practice snapping yourself from being a state of being bored and tired into a
state of energy it’s going to be very valuable for you let’s try it back to
the energized steak harness energize you can get come on sit up in your chair
bring with some energy feeling strong come on even more energized than before
now go to bored and tired back to energized come on it’s faster you can’t
snap yourself I know this looks weird if you’re driving in your car and
somebody’s looking at a window but hey it’ll make their day you’ll change their
state come on somebody else in the family is watching they don’t have to
know what’s going on just go for it here we go
total energy lots of energy and excitement you let your body move your
body sit the way you’re sitting a bit even more energy born and tired
energized is faster you can come on snap back in that state board in time
energize faster again come on even more even more anymore bored and tired
energized back in that state again feel and just stay there stay in the
energized state now you might so this sounds weird
Mich a question how valuable is it for you to be able to go in life in business
and your job and your personal relationships from being bored and tired
and wiped out to being in a peak state how important would that be to
increasing the quality of your life Sante scale from zero to ten I’ll tell
you I think it’s a level 9 or 10 or above I think you probably will too so
developing new ways new habits of moving your body is the single most powerful
way to change state here’s another quick way change your breathing as I said
earlier one of the reasons people smoke
cigarettes is because in order to smoke a cigarette you change your breathing
pattern rather radically when people eat food oftentimes they feel better
afterwards because they fill their stomach up and it changes the way they
feel and the way they breathe without that food in there things slow down they
feel less stressed almost every yogic practice that I’ve
ever studied or notice teach us some kind of breathing pattern as part of how
to change your emotions and the way you can grow spiritually if you will so
changing your breath try different breaths breathing faster breathing
slower and discover what breathing patterns work best for you to create the
changes that you want thirdly learn to manipulate your face I teach people in
seminars how to do what I call facial aerobics what that means is is doing
many different expressions as you possibly can in a short period of time
so that what happens is you really have access to different emotional states do
you know you have over 80 different muscles in your face and a slight change
in your facial muscle instantly changes the way you think and the way you feel
there was a study done at the University of California at San Francisco when they
took manic depressives and all they did was change their facial expressions made
them smile an ongoing basis these are people who were manic-depressives
Barrowman people normally need drugs that change the way they feel not one of
those persons while they were able to keep smiling was able to feel depressed
in fact some of them began to manage themselves by smiling for 20 minutes at
a time for no reason and breathing it again a feel great and they begin to
develop a new habit do you have habitual facial expressions
of grimacing or frustration will you crinkle up your nose or your eyelids or
your forehead or something else that you do an ongoing basis I’m here to tell you
that those habits create those negative emotions in your body on a regular basis
you need to develop some new habits of using your face and finally one of the
ways you can manage your state best is to control your diet and I’m not going
to teach you a health seminar here although I do those across the United
States I do want to say this to you that most of us in life do not pay attention
to what we’re putting in our body and what you’re putting in affects deeply
how you feel emotionally blood sugar for example alone makes a radical shift in
how you feel emotional so if you aren’t paying attention how
you’re eating and you’re throwing anything you possibly can and that by
without looking at the consequences you’re going to pay an emotional price
many times hyperactive children or people that are having major ups and
downs in our life it just comes from some basic simple Dietary Approaches if
they made a few simple changes they’d live a much more balanced emotional life
so my challenge to you is to study health to find out not I’ll throw your
pendulum and go off on the deep end on some bizarre diet but how can you make
sure that the way you’re breathing the way you’re moving in the way you’re
eating things is giving you as much as possible to your life and not taking
away not throwing your wife into a pendulum make sure that you have that
physical energy and drive it comes from having enough sleep and eating well for
now though I want to have you focus on one emotional state because I’d like you
to be able to trigger a state change anytime you want and that emotion is the
one I noticed passion as you may have picked up I’m a fairly passionate person
and I talked about that the end of each tape because I think out of a state of
passion you can create almost anything you want in your life
I think most people life want passion they want that drive that attraction to
life they want that juice in their relationships in their business and
their ability to learn but most people aren’t barely making it through the day
you know I mean hey you got to watch TV fight the traffic home get a bite to eat
go to bed they can get up tomorrow and start the same vicious circle all over
again I mean after all guys gotta work gotta make your way and stuff after all
I work hard you can’t expect me to be passionate end of the day easy for you
but come on I work for life let me just tell you something I used to believe
that kind of stuff and I used to feel that way too
am I saying you can’t talk slowly and be passionate absolutely not
I can talk quietly and still have passion coming through my voice no way
I’m speaking to you and the way I feel inside
but that’s passion this is not fashion if you want passion you got to talk like
you’re passionate you can’t talk like you’re bored and feel passionate it
won’t work your body will lead your mind take care of it how can we use this
knowledge simple answer I want you to do it by doing the following in a moment at
the end of this tape your only exercise today is to do this I want you to
absolutely whip yourself into a passionate state and if there’s somebody
there I want you to talk to somebody about something and I want you to do it
two different ways talk to them about something you believe
in something you really usually pretty excited about but do it in a
dispassionate way in other words talk to a friend and by the way let me just say
this if you’re in your car or there’s nobody there talk to the wall okay talk
to the road it doesn’t matter if you’re talking yourself and people driving by
they’ll again to entertain so this is very useful now here’s what I want you
to do if while you’re doing this I want you to talk about something and you can
just talk out loud to no one or talk to someone after their talk about something
you’re normally inspired about but talk and a non inspired way a dispassionate
way it’s like you really don’t believe what you’re saying but you’re just
trying to convince somebody or something cái gosh you know it’s really important
in life is learning to change people’s conditioning and help them to succeed
if you were to study it it would really change your life too and I want you to
notice what you do when you’re dispassionate notice for example how
you’re standing are you wavering back and forth are you
standing still are you back on your heels how do you gesture or do you even
gesture when you’re dispassionate how to use your voice what’s the volume
what’s the tempo what’s the tone of your voice what do you do with your facial
expressions when you’re passionate versus dispassionate pay close attention
and then what I want you to do is and really go for it for two or three
minutes you totally dispassionate notice how it
feels to be dispassionate and doubt if you like it too terribly much then what
I want to do is change your state completely and I want you to go the
other extreme I want you to talk to yourself or the wall or your radio or
the crowd or the traffic or your friend in a totally passionate way where you’re
more inspired more excited more passionate you can ever remember being
an entire life I mean I want you to go forward a thousand percent and while
you’re talking it to whatever it is I mean go for a hundred percent don’t go
on this is stupid all right I’ll try it halfway do it all the way or don’t do it
at all if you’re not gonna do it at all give this tape per gun to somebody who
will follow through but if you’re one of those people then go for it okay be
outrageous push yourself and then notice how are you moving differently what are
some of the specific gestures that you give when you’re passionate and where
are they now what’s the difference for the quality of them what’s the
difference in how you use your voice what’s your volume like what’s your
tempo what’s your facial expressions like again notice the difference when
you’re done here’s your assignment your assignment is pull out your success
journal and record the difference in other words what I want you to do is
leave this session today having knowledge of the buttons in your brain
in other words if I notice that if I take my right hand and I actually snap
it out in front of me very very fast that when I’m passionate I tend to do
that making a point and when I’m dispassionate my hands are below my
waist we’re just kind of hanging out there then the next time I want to be
passionate even if I’m not feeling passion I’m gonna snap my hand out there
and immediately it’s there if I notice that when I’m dispassionate I tell
I’m tired and stuff but when I’m passionate I speak a little more rapidly
then if I want to get passionate I just start speaking more rapidly immediately
and pretty soon I merely feel passionate as well if I noticed that when I’m
dispassionate I’m back on my heels or leaning away from somebody but when
I’m passionate I’m leaning into them talking and gesturing then I start
leaning into somebody in order to feel passionate towards them in other words
find out how your brain works you are different than me or anyone else you’re
gonna meet find exactly what triggers passion within you in terms of movements
an experiment what would be a kind of move you could make that a meet it would
make you feel strong even if you are afraid a few moments ago so let me be
clear here’s your exercise one talk to
something or someone in a dispassionate way about something you’re normally
inspired about this passionate or you don’t really believe in a field to
change your state and get absolutely passionate where you feel more excited
more energized more passionate ever before 3 dissect in your mind the
difference and how you moved how you breathe I use your face and I use your
voice and record that in your success Journal and finally today experiment at
some point in the day you don’t feel very inspired or you don’t feel anything
in particular snap yourself into a powerful state or ask yourself where I’m
on a scale from 0 to 10 if you find your level 4 or 5 or 6 to me that’s a pretty
boring way to live life maybe you want to amp yourself up crank yourself up to
level 8 or 9 just by changing your movement or maybe you want to be able to
go from being totally excited to relax just by changing your breathing or your
tempo or your gestures because being able to relax simply
easily sometimes and oftentimes as important as your ability to get
yourself excited the only reason I push in the other direction is I think most
people have the ability getting this fake I may not have the ability give
them the other one whatever you’re already good at make it better whatever
state you’re not good at getting in and practice getting into it until you can
absolutely make the change you want as fast as you can think it remember any
emotion you’re feeling is based on how you’re moving little movements like
breathing and big movements like gestures and facial expressions take
control the day and experiment and explore how the adventure discovering
how you can use your body to immediately direct your mind in your emotions

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