Cleaning When Depressed – How to Clean Your Messy House


Why is it so hard for depressed people to
clean? That’s a great question and we’re going to
talk about that today. Hi there, I’m Angela Brown and this is Ask
a House Cleaner. This is a show where you get to ask a house
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a homeowner who wants to know why is it so hard to clean when you’re depressed. Well, that’s a great questions because when
you’re depressed, there’s a whole bunch of other stuff that’s going on and cleaning house
is not a priority. The priorities are eating and exercising and
taking a shower. And it’s very difficult for a really depressed
person to even get out of bed in the morning. When you get out of bed in the morning, you
feel like you’ve just been hit by a Mack truck and so cleaning up your house isn’t even on
the radar. That’s one of the reasons it’s so hard to
clean when you’re depressed. All right, what happens to a depressed person
is things slide. When you take off your clothes, you don’t
feel like putting them away so they go on the floor or on the back of a chair or the
back of a sofa. And they just keep piling up. Along with the piling up, there is a lot of
guilt associated with that because you know you should pick up after yourself and you
know you should put things away. So you feel guilty because, “Oh, I don’t feel
doing it,” and then you feel bad. And with the feeling bad, that creates more
depression. And so it’s kind of a vicious cycle that feeds
itself. Then along with the stuff that’s left around,
there’s also other stuff that gets neglected. So instead of scouring out of the bottoms
of the bathtubs and the shower pan when you’re done taking a shower, it’s easy to neglect
that until it becomes overwhelming and just mucky. If things are mucky, it doesn’t inspire you
to go take a shower because you get in there and there’s mold growing around the bottom
of the shower pan or the bottom of your bathtub. And so there’s no inspiration because you
don’t feel clean when you’re inside there. And then other things pile up in the bathroom
and you have leftover shampoo bottles and hairspray bottles and things that are strewn
about and there’s no energy to try to clean those things up. So it’s very hard to be depressed, but it’s
very hard just to live a day-to-day life. So, one of the things that I would recommend
if you’re having a problem cleaning your house because you are depressed, number one, don’t
worry about cleaning the house right now. Cleaning the entire house right now is going
to be an overwhelming task and it’s only going to get worse if you start to unravel things
and you don’t get them put away. It’s only going to feed the guilt and the
frustration that you already have. So my suggestion for you is this, you have
to take care of yourself first. You cannot take care of your house, you cannot
take care of your family until you can take care of yourself first. So if you’re having a hard time cleaning,
forget about the cleaning for a minute. Get out of bed, get on a pair of shoes and
get out the door and go for a brisk walk. It’s going to be one of the hardest things
that you do because you do not feel like it. But once you get out and you start walking,
and I’m not talking about sauntering along the road, I’m talking about a brisk walk. If you get out and you start going for a brisk
walk, that’s going to activate a bunch of neurons in your brain and you’re going to
get oxygen flowing through your blood and it’s going to help you breathe better and
it’s going to build self-confidence. When you exercise, you feel better because
you release endorphins. It’s a natural drug, it doesn’t cost anything
and going for a walk is absolutely free. So my recommendation to you is get out and
go for a walk first. When you come back from your walk, before
you take a shower, do one small task. One small task like washing the dishes. That’s it. Don’t clean up the whole kitchen. Don’t put all the food away. Don’t worry about going through the cupboards. Don’t try to do everything at once, do one
small task. That’s it. Go for a walk and do one small task. Once you’ve cleaned up the dishes, now the
goal is to maintain those dishes. That’s it. Just one small responsibility, do the dishes. And so every meal, do the dishes, that’s it. It’s easy. The rest of your house can be chaotic for
a minute, that’s okay. The important thing is that we take care of
you and you do one small task. If you feel better and time will happen if
you keep exercising and you keep going for a brisk walk every single day, you may come
back and feel like doing two things. And it might take a couple of weeks to get
up to this point. It’s going to be a slow progression. But when you get to the point of you feel
like doing something else, then add one more small task to your plate. And this might be when you take off your clothes,
instead of putting them on the floor, even if you’re tripping over clothes and there’s
stuff all over the floor, take these clothes that you just took off and hang them up or
put them in the hamper. Make it a point to do one small thing in addition
to what you’re already doing. And so now it might be the clothes. So when you take the clothes off now, the
clothes that you’re wearing go inside the hamper or they get hung up. And like I say, there may be stuff strewn
all about, don’t worry about that stuff right now. We’re going to do the dishes and we’re going
to hang up the clothes after you wear them. And so, if we do small, small tasks, we can
build until we’re doing more and more. There may come a time when you decide you
want to hire someone to come help you. The problem is that most people that are depressed
don’t hire house cleaners for this reason. There’s a lot of guilt associated with having
someone else come in your house and see how you live. And so because of the shame and the frustration
and the anxiety, some people will call house cleaners and then they cancel on the house
cleaner before the house cleaner gets there because they’re so ashamed and they’re so
fearful. I don’t know why, but in my experience over
the last almost 30 years, my experience is a lot of depression and this frustration and
shame comes from one of two things. It comes from a home where the parents were
uber tidy. They were like super, super, super tidy and
they demanded that the rooms were always clean and that there was never anything out of place. And so it’s almost a revolt against the parent. As an adult, these kid have grown up now and
they’re like, “I am not cleaning up my space.” And because their place has become busy or
messy, then they get frustrated and depressed and like I say, it’s a cycle that feeds itself. The other one, ironically, comes from church
crowds. There are people that grow up in the church,
they go to church every Sunday of their lives and I’m not knocking religion, but there’s
a thread of, “I am not worthy,” and I don’t know where it comes from but it’s very thick
in the church organization group. So, people that grew up in the church or maybe
their parents were ministers or they were very involved in the church, what happens
is they go to church every Sunday and they hear that they are sinners and they need to
repent and they are not worthy and they are worthy of all these things and they internalize
that. And so, they go home and they feel like, “Well,
I’m not worthy to have a clean house. I’m not worthy to have a beautiful home. I don’t deserve to clean up after myself.” They put all this shame and guilt on themselves. There’s really no bearing in that whatsoever. That might be a broken tape that you are given
as a small child or even sitting, listening in church services Sunday after Sunday that
you are not worthy. Well, the good news is, and I’m here to break
the news to you, that you are in fact worthy. If you’re on this planet, somebody created
you and you are worthy of being here. Now, if you take a small child and the small
child is in his crib and he’s crying. If you are the parent you are like, “Oh, hey,
my kid is crying.” And so you go and you feed the child. And then when the kid dirties his diaper,
he stands and he cries or whatever, you go and you change the diaper. The kid doesn’t say, “Oh, hang on dad, I’m
not worthy. You know, wait until I get my life in order
and then you can feed and change me.” That’s weird, right? It doesn’t happen that way, even a tiny child
is worthy of love and attention and you know, a clean house and clean space and clean diapers
and food and all these things. Even a tiny child, so as a grown adult with
all of these skills and information that you have, with all the resources that we’ve been
given, you are worthy and you deserve a clean place to stay. And so, if you are in a state of depression
because you feel bad, that is an illness that needs to be dealt with. However you deal with that, there are a variety
of different ways, there are a variety of different books, there are podcasts, there
are things you can do. The very first thing I would request that
you do is get out of the house and go for a walk. And go for a walk every single day from here
through the rest of your life. Because if you get out and you go for a brisk
walk, you get away from it all. You get a chance to clear your head. You get a chance to release those endorphins,
to get some exercise, and to get the oxygen flowing through your body because you are
worthy. The next thing that I would recommend, and
this again is free, it doesn’t cost any money. But most people have a smart phone. On the smart phone there are apps that allow
you to record messages. I need you to record a message to yourself
that says, “I am worthy. I deserve a clean place to stay.” And then record it as if you’ve already accomplished it. “My house is beautiful and it’s clean and
it’s shiny and it’s polished and I love waking up in the morning and I bounce out of bed
with energy.” And say it as if you have already accomplished
those things. Here’s what happens, if you listen to it over
and over and over and over again, what happens is your mind starts to believe it and then
your mind starts to go in search of things that make that true. So when you wake up in the morning, instead
of feeling like, “Oh, I just got hit by this truck and I’m so exhausted.” You wake up and you’re like, “Hey, I feel
great!” Because you’ve told your unconscious mind
and your conscious mind a multiplicity of times that you bounce out of bed like toast. And you feel great in the morning when you
get up and you are ready to take on the day. And then what happens is, your unconscious
mind starts to produce those results. So even if your house is trashed, even if
you’ve got mold growing in the corners of your showers and you feel unloved and unworthy
and all these things, if you will listen to a tape and it’s great if it’s in your voice
because your mind, your unconscious mind recognizes your voice. You keep telling yourself things over and
over and over and your mind has become accustomed to listening to your voice. So if you will make a tape in your voice and
you play it over and over and over again, it will start to bounce you out of the cycle
that you’re in and it will start to create a new cycle for you and you will start to
reprogram the way that you feel about yourself. Because if you feel unloved and you feel unworthy
and you feel like you don’t deserve a clean place, you’re wrong! The good news is, you’re wrong. You do deserve it. If you are here on this earth, you deserve
a clean place to stay and you deserve however you get there. Whether you hire someone or whether you do
it yourself or whether you enlist the help from family and friends or church friends,
whatever. I don’t care how you do it, but over a period
of time you will start to recreate the space that you’re in to have it be in alignment
with the stories that you’re telling yourself. So if the tape that you’re listening to is
old, if it’s broken, if it doesn’t apply to you anymore and if it’s not how you want to
live, you do have the power to change it. And it may not be easy and it may not be instantaneous. It may take some time. But if you will start by getting out and going
for a walk, that will be a starting point for you that will revolutionize the rest of
your life, I promise you that. All right, that’s it for today. Until we meet again, leave the world a cleaner place than when you found it.

100 comments

  1. I didn’t even realize this is what I needed to hear right now. I was just looking for some motivation and tips for how to organize my thoughts enough to organize my home to help pull myself out of my depressive episode, but this was beyond what I expected.

    I’ve had a lot of people try to motivate or reassure me over time, but all of it just layered more guilt. Things like “I know you can do better,” “you don’t have any reason to feel this way,” “you just need to do it.”

    This was kind and understanding and lacking any judgment and it’s honestly exactly the message I’ve needed for YEARS now. Thank you so much for taking the time to say this and for being such a genuine person.

  2. I loved everything and agreed up until you spoke about religion. While i understand your view, i also know that religion brings hope and love to those who are suffering. When i feel low, i look to God for the true love i need. God helps motivate me to do better for myself. Church has always made me feel like if i am not doing well, i can and will do better. Maybe not amazing, but better. Church gives hope, and if you church makes you feel like you are not worthy of anything, you are listening to the wrong people.

  3. thank you so much Angela, you have amazing empathy and what you say is so spot on. this is one of the best pragmatic, hands-on, simple/clear and straight forward advice I have heard in years on these interrelated topics. depression and a messy/cluttered/unclean/hoarded house can go hand in hand (or any other form of self sabotage behaviour in place of that) and the more we live in such a state the more it affects us, it is a vicious cycle. It is so true about the feeling of shame, unworthiness. I feel that it is connected to a sort of "abandonment" of myself, a feeling of unlove, unworthiness. it has a lot to do with emotional neglect growing up. What you say about going out and moving our bodies, going for a walk is precious, the challenge is always that when one is in the bottom darkest space of that state there is no energy to get up and even get dressed….but I can attest to how much a walk in the park is healing, if one manages to get a little bit of sunshine, to be in the middle of nature, even in a city park, to focus on the trees, the birds, the flowers, the dogs strolling around…maybe listen to some music while walking, maybe bringing along a book, or drinking a cup of coffee, an ice cream cone, something small that makes us feel a little gratification…sending healing thoughts to all, and a wish for a crisp fresh clean space in which to be happy!

  4. Realized that I literally sit around so much everyday and am so weak that it's probably one of my biggest health problems that adds to my depression…i dont like to admit that i might have it even though i am always looking for natural remedies for stress. I have 2 kids and have been a stay at home mom since my first child was born in 2015. I am breastfeeding and am away from family and friends since we had to move to another state. I cant go on the type of walk i would like because one of my kids needs to walk and she is always too slow for me. After I watched this video I finally put a tandem stroller in the Amazon cart. Ordering it tomorrow! I am going to start walking and getting my heartrate up, get a nice burn going. I crave it. I need it. Thank you so much for the inspiration and tips for getting stuff done. I almost cried watching this video!

  5. I'm 14 and I have been suffering from depression for more than 4 years. I realized how bad it actually was when watching this and it would be nice if my mom could understand this, ive asked for therapy and my mother found out about son things about 8 months ago and I have not gotten therapy just yet regardless of how much I have told her I needed it. this really helped though, thanks.

  6. I don’t want to go out of the house and one day i am cleaning like a robot and other day lying in a bed like a lazy person 🥺🥺 and yes i got depressed when my house is messy and i am fighting very hard to not to get my mind depressed

  7. I… Thank you. I'm 17 years old and constantly belittle myself due to the state of my and my fathers house. It used to be so clean when my mother was alive, but over the years we've just given up on living. This video has actually began to making me cry (crying right now as I'm writing this). The tips for cleaning are definitely something I want to try now (am about to go on this walk) but just thank you for the always important message "we deserve to be here and we are worthy of a clean place" I haven't heard that in a long time…. just, Thank you ❤

  8. This video and these comments made me cry. Knowing that others are going though what I'm going through doesn't make me feel better. It makes me feel sad that people are feeling this way also. But I'm happy to see that we are all trying to take steps to improve our quality of life by watching this video.

  9. Thank you feel you saved my life dealing with depression so bad I miss my home the way it use to be clean I can't afford a house cleaner I'm going to start doing one thing at a time I miss me and my home the way it use to be keep you posted thank you so much love your video you have a kind heart hugs

  10. I've been looking into videos to try get myself better, I'll take this advice but not right now, its abit late lol. I havent been diagnosed with Depression nor do I want to say I have it, but everyday is straining, I never have enough energy and sometimes I just get lost in a spiral of these unwelcomed bad thoughts that steer out of control, or slip in snidy remarks about me and everyone else around me, I barely feel anything much and the only things I get to feel when emotions do occur is anger and greif, but for me its no excuse I need to clean but I dont have the will power to drag my sorry ass to clean it and forcing myself to do it makes my body more heavy. Maybe its laziness but for now I'm looking for any possible thing to help me clean and priotise my life because I will not give up because my motivation is to keep bettering myself as a person. I hope all you get better soon. Thank you for this video

  11. thank you thank you thank you. Its 4pm and I decided to get up. its too hot to ho outside but I exercised for 20 minutes and it did definitely got me going

  12. Growing up with intensely tidy parents definitely left me with a lot of cleanliness/organizational shame. I'd get in trouble if I left a sweater in the family room or didn't immediately rinse my dishes and put them in the dishwasher. In high school, my dad took the door off of my bedroom once and I wasn't allowed to get it back unless I kept my room perfectly clean for a week. Now, I can't have people over unless my apartment is spotless (when I was in uni, I'd make my friends wait outside my dorm room while I quickly tidied up because I couldn't stand for them to see clothes on the floor or my bed unmade).

    My apartment is the worst it's ever been right now–and for the longest. I keep going out to buy more cleaning supplies and organization baskets, but when I get home, I'm too tired to start cleaning or it's "too late" in the day and I put it off until "tomorrow." I can't get anything done when my place is a mess, I just stagnate. I'm going to try really hard to at least clean my living room and kitchen tomorrow.

    Thank you, Angela, for your kind words, understanding, and support! <3

  13. You are a very wise woman. Thank you so much for making this video. It has profoundly changed my life for the better. One tiny step at a time. I can do this. Thank you for this extremely helpful advice. It is a candle in the darkness. I am worthy of a clean, peaceful home. I am making the tape you suggested about already having created that for myself. 💖💖💖

  14. Thank you…beyond…thank you… I started crying when I watched this. I know I'm not alone. Thank you so much! From the bottom of my heart. Thank you.

  15. I haven't been diagnosed with depression, but wow this hits home hard. I've always been a bit of a messy person, but the last several years (through a lot of issues… family problems, job loss, moving churches, etc.) it has gotten really bad. Not even just clutter, but outright dirty (not sweeping floors, washing dishes, etc). I feel horrifically guilty about it and don't talk about it because everyone else just calls me lazy, a slob, etc. Thank you, cleaning lady! This helps a lot.

  16. I love this Angela! I’m a owner and I’m having LOTS of trouble cleaning my own house dealing with pregnancy and coming off of my meds=anxiety and depression. I feel like it takes SO MUCH Just to get my employees off to jobs. And I just lay in the bed way more than I should. And people don’t understand at all.

  17. Thanks🙏 you are so kind, and cleaver …. you could be the best therapist….my mom has depression..I wil show her your video.🌷

  18. Thank you so much. I’m starting cleaning my room it’s pretty bad but this is helping me out hearing it while picking up clothes

  19. I have to say I don’t agree with your opinion on the going to Church since I’m a Christian that being said. I’ve always taken care of my home but since my husband has retired and our oldest grandson moved in I can not get anything done. They keep interrupting me wanting me to do something else or just being in the way. I have to walk around them or I cannot remember what I’m even doing! I wish I could send them on a 2 week vacation.

  20. Thank you so much I needed this I often feel terrible about myself and it’s hard to forgive myself and I end up with a big mess mentally and in my room.

  21. Wow, nice one! I just did a video on "Organising" as one of the ways I've used to overcome depression.. then stumbled on your video! Thanks for sharing.

    I hope it's ok to share mine: https://link.andrewlow.coach/organising

    If not, please feel free to remove 🙂

  22. This is me 😰😰😰 I can’t fix myself. Nor can the doctors or meds . It’s hell . You are not alone people, I wish a magic wand for us all ❤️❤️❤️❌❌❌❌❌🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧 why am I living in a cluttered dirty apartment? It’s my depression, avoidance, hell 😪

  23. Maintenance of a new place is easier then cleaning AND upgrading an old place. However most of us can only afford an old outdated place. It is not rewarding to clean an old place. It looks bad and dirty before you clean and bad and dirty after you clean.

  24. I've been dealing with depression and anxiety for a very long time and I have post-traumatic stress disorder. I had no choice but to let my two and a half year old son go visit and stay with his dad ( who missed out on most of his life) because I was the front passenger of a car wreck where a drunk driver crashed their car into my side of the door and it tore my liver and I was bleeding internally and had cracked ribs etc and was in ICU for two weeks and almost died from it. When I got out of ICU they told me I could not lift more than 5 lb so I had no choice but to let him go stay with his dad for a little while and I never knew that would be my last time seeing him. He was on his tricycle and a drunk driver hit him and fled the scene of the accident. she was later found and charged with Reckless murder, hit and run etc my Son died that night. It was 2 days before my birthday. That's really when I got into a deep dark depression, so much to the point of where I lost my job because of it and I ended up just staying in my apartment and drinking wine and taking pills to try to ease the pain. 4 years later I was blessed to have a baby girl. when she was 6 years old a drunk driver crashed their car into my house and almost killed my daughter. My daughter and I were trapped under debris. I got out of it and could barely see and was screaming my daughter's name and begging them to please help me get to my daughter but they just trampled over the debris and her and fled the scene by foot. She had to be pulled out by neighbors who heard the loud crash and me screaming out for her.I truly believe that it was God and my son watching over us that night and especially her where the car came in at. Luckily we survived. Lost most of everything and had to go live in an extended stay hotel for a while until the house was remodeled. Ever since moving back in, it's been so hard trying to clean and do simple tasks everyday. I still have boxes that I need to go through. I'm so overwhelmed and depressed. Where we live has a sharp curve and people speed around it all day everyday. before that happened to us a car crashed in one of our neighbors houses and since moving back in there has been three more car crashes in the front of our house at that curve. I am terrified of living here and just don't know what to do. I now have another baby girl that just turned 2 years old. I'm hoping one day things will be settled to where we can move out of here. I just wanted to thank you for your video because I knew before getting some things done today that I needed to take a walk around the block a few times and your video really explains and goes into detail of why sometimes I go through these things so I just wanted to thank you.

  25. If you hear me talking to myself …I'm having a staff meeting….. Lovvvv it Yes you really do understand how to express love,care, hope to a depressed person Ty for being Kay La

  26. Thank you for this…I just had an infestation of fruit flies because I never wanted to take my garbage out and some rotting food in there was attracting them. Today I took out the garbage and cleaned the inside of the can after I got home from grocery shopping. I’m exhausted. But I did something, and doing something is better than doing nothing.

  27. Tbh my house is so dirty that I feel ashamed of myself, yet I still can't get myself up to clean it on a regular basis. I'm so thankful that videos like this exist, where someone actually understands how depression works.

  28. What an amazingly helpful, useful, encouraging, empowering video, solid simple advice delivered with empathy. Thank you🙏

  29. I grew up in a christian cult, and struggle with depression, shame and selfworth everyday. I'm so happy I was recommended this video.

  30. I struggle with clinical depression, can’t afford to pay anyone to help….but I honestly feel like I have ADD when it comes to cleaning! And your right….I struggle even bathing! Gross, sad, but it’s real and not at all purposely! Ppl don’t understand, but idc about judgement bc I know myself and that I do truly try!!!

  31. I have five kids and can not keep up, it's so overwhelming, wish I could afford to hire help.
    Just doing the dishes here is a day long job it's so far behind and theres a mountain of laundry that I can never catch up on.
    Thankyou for making this video!

  32. Thank you for this wonderful video. I’m a 21 year old currently in college. Even on my worst days, I still have some semblance of organization. The problem is my room mates. When We had gotten this apartment initially, I set out rules, I took it on myself to cook, clean and do certain other little things but then I realized that they were non Chalant about it, currently struggling with ants and little insect because they refuse to keep the house clean. This made me feel so bad I decided to ignore, I have a few months until I find a new place but it seems like the closer the time of my departure, the more irritated I get. I can’t seem to focus on anything because at every turn in the house I am seeing something that makes me want to scream. I’ve spoken to them about it several times, hence no change. Please what can I do?!

  33. I want to get my own place coz of my depression I think cleaning and doing day to day things will keep me occupied

  34. You’re amazing. I wondered if you even understood depression, but that notion was quickly put to rest. You nailed it. Subscribed. Thank you.

  35. Damn. You got me spot on. My mom used to hit, yell, and punish me when I didn't clean to her standards. She and my dad were also youth leaders at one point. I knew about making my childhood self a martyr to not clean but I hadn't noticed so much else. I needed to find this video months ago. Now I have a week to clean my house before I get the carpets cleaned and then my husband (army) should be back soon. I'd rather combust than have him see the house like this. I don't even know what he would say. He'd be upset and also try to comfort me and get incredibly worried. I don't want that at all… Thank you for this. I'm going to start with my bathroom and bedroom.

  36. i hope you can be here around my country.. I can't clean house for so long and I'm in deep depression can't even eat every day 😭
    thank you so much for feel what we go through every day❤️

  37. Thank you, so much for this video even though i feel unworthy of alot of thing's i know you are right!!! About everything you said.. I got teary eyed for a moment… I just needed to hear that, to let me know im not a lost cause.. And i do matter even when my bad thoughts starts to kick in, to defeat me i know i can fight back and win… 🤗👍✨✨💗

  38. Hey just found your channel.i found vids on getting your house organised and clean..but this one is the one that I need..omg I've only been watching for a couple of minutes & you've hit the nail on the head..I have let everything get on top of me..you are bang on,so right..I know I should do it..the thing is when I do do it.cause of how I feel it doesn't stay that way..yes getting out really does help..oh I'm probably not making much sense.but you are so right..I'm not good with organisation..you really do get it..you have made me cry.i can't belive I'm sitting here & crying. .thankyou so much.i am subscribing..even the way you are talking is calming..thankyou so much..you are so right.
    This has really really helped me.like you say it's getting to the root of the problem.
    Yes when I lived with my parents,our home was immaculate,we were always doing house work.i even had to vacuum in a certain way.you know people's lawns & they put the stripes in.well when I vacuumed I had to do it so the pile was brushed up & straight lines (it's hard to explain).when I cleaned the kitchen floor,I didn't use a mop.i was on my hands & knees. I had to Polish it up & if I missed a tiny piece,even under the table my dad would notice..honestly my dad was strict..I could go on lol..this vid has really helped me.thankyou.

  39. Other than me being disabled from the age of 20, this last has me spot on. I'm crying. I was the kind of person that when people walked in my home they were amazed at how clean. After getting sick I haven't been able to live up to my standard of cleaning and it has put me in a terrible place. I literally don't want anyone over unless it's that high standard. It's a hard life to live being this way.

  40. I am 27 and I have major depression and have basically since I was a child.. I want to clean it just seems so overwhelming. how can I find motivation? my family says I'm lazy but I have horrible depression 😔

  41. This is incredible, I'm gonna put my cosy walking gear next to my bed and coffee cup by the kettle so in the morning I can walk before even showering and breakfast to wake me up/get me moving

  42. Thank you cleaning lady.. We are moving from a studio that is total utter chaos to a one bedroom apartment that has just got sprayed for pests.. And its so tiring to even clean the bugspray off the walls and cabinets.

    Im not even depressed its just overwhelming and sad. Luckily we will be on the ground floor so walks will be much easier than 4th floor no elevator

  43. Wonderful!!! Thank you so much for this discussion. What you said is on sooooo on target. I have been a weight loss coach for almost 13 years and I'm about to achieve my certification in Hypnotherapy. The things you pointed out about why it's hard to clean when depressed are echoed in mental health training/improvement/coaching. Perfectionism, or the inability to do things perfectly; perfect weight, perfect house, perfect life often leads to the, "Why bother at all," mode which in turn starts a downward spiral of self-contempt . Your suggestions about just getting out of the house, doing just one thing, and changing the mental dialog have worked for so many as well as myself. Again, thank you for sharing your insights. 🙂

  44. You are such an amazing individual ❤ You present yourself as a very understanding person. Thank you so much for your tips and pointers! I feel that what you shared in this video help so many people out there who are experiencing depression or other things that people are experiencing.

  45. Angela, I just read one of your responses to a comment here in the comments section, and I just want to say that you are a beautiful human! This is an amazing video, and you are helping so many more people then you could imagine! So thank you!

  46. Thank you for the information, you do know alot about cleaning and depression. But cleaning and depression has nothing to do with church. You go to church to be lifted spiritually and learn the word of God, not because you are depressed and not being able to clean. Sorry not agreeing with the church arguement otherwise nice advice on motivation for cleaning while depressed.

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