8 Types of Love You Will Experience in this Lifetime


Aristotle and Plato, our main Greek boys knew what they were talking about when they thought about love. In fact Canadian psychologist, John Allen Lee also found their work meaningful, that he borrowed some of their greek terms and invented the colour wheel theory of love. Vibrant and easy to follow, we will also be using this tool throughout this video to help to help you explore the many different types of love. Although times have changed since Aristotle and Plato were alive, the world has evolved with dating apps flirty emojis and romantic means one thing hasn’t; We all yearn for affection. Whether you’re just getting into your first relationship, or you prioritize self-love first and foremost, here are the 8 types of love you will experience in this lifetime. 1) Playful love; Ludus Are you a ‘no-strings-attached’ sort of partner? Do others find you flirty and fun? Then Ludus describes you perfectly. People who experience playful love see it as one big exciting game. Instead of committing fully to one person, their main objective is to make things less complicated by having multiple partners or being friends with benefits. On the upside, this type of love keeps things burning with excitement and childlike innocence. But on the downside, people who prefer playful love like to feel in control, so they end up manipulating their partners, whether it means lying, deceiving or exploiting their weak spots. Unfortunately, if you’re a highly sensitive person, then this type of love may not be for you. Daniel Kim, from We The Kims channel, dives deep into what a highly sensitive person is, and how they function differently. Be sure to check out his link in the description below after this video. 2) Obsessive love; Mania Ah yes, there’s nothing like being bitten by the nasty old green bug, or putting on a mad hat. People who experience Mania often suffer from low self esteem, and want to feel complete. So they often latch onto their partner, which usually creates a codependent relationship. The good news however is that one can always grow out of Mania, and move onto a different type of love that’s free from obsession. In order to repair a codependent relationship, Dr Misty Hook says that it’s important to set boundaries and find happiness as and individual. Whether that means spending more time with family and friends, broadening your networking circle, or picking up a new hobby, these activities can all build your independence. 3) Erotic love; Eros Eros was the son of Aphrodite, the goddess of love. This is when things get real steamy and intense, like those R rated scenes your parents stop you from watching. This type of relationship involves a strong physical and emotional connection, where both partners exercise compassion. Romantic and idealistic, Eros leaves people feeling high on love. It is also often the initial stage of an exclusive relationship. 4) Enduring love; Pragma Do you often feel like butterflies are overrated? Or just want something that’s stable and lasting. People who prefer enduring love have a practical approach towards relationships. They choose convenience over romance and are more concerned about whether a partner can bring common sense to the table. The individual also find their partner’s level of education, religious beliefs, social status and financial standing important. 5) Friendship love; Philia This type of love, along with the remainder, are not in Lee’s colour wheel theory of love, but they are still important enough to the Greeks to be explored. In fact, they consider it far superior than Eros because it’s a love that’s equal. It is commonly believed that if you have one good friend in life, then you’re lucky. Philia is the platonic love we have for others whom we are not physically attracted to. This type of love thrives on components of loyalty, openness and a true sense of understanding one another. 6) Familial love; Storge Storge is a Greek term that means natural affection or family love. This type of love is the first you experience throughout your life. It forms between parents and their children. Some of us are blessed with wonderful childhoods, and we can rely on our parents again and again for guidance. But those of us who grew up in a toxic household may find it difficult to achieve familial love. 7) Self-love; Philautia this type of love shares the Buddhist philosophy of self-compassion. In order to reach Philautia, one must exercise self understanding, until they gain the strength to love themselves. It is only until we accept who we are that we can love others. But, true self-love isn’t just experience at certain moments. It must be unconditional love you have for yourself. If you’ve been in an abusive household or relationship, self-love will seem like a foreign concept. Some helpful tips that are to practice include: Asking yourself what you need, allowing yourself to feel your emotions instead of tuning them out, and meditating. 8) Selfless love; Agape Lat but not least, we have Agape. This is the highest form of love we will ever experience. Agape is what Buddhists refer to as universal kindness. When we exercise selfless love, we are capable in forgiving and seeing the good in others. You can have Agape for strangers, religious figures or nature. In this type of love, you learn to be altruistic and giving, helping those in great need of support. Which type of love resonates with you the most? And which kind would you liek to experience before you die? Please share your thoughts with us below If you’re curious to learn more about love, be sure to check out our video on Sternberg’s theory of love Also, don’t forget to subscribe to our channel for more helpful tips, and share this video with others. With your help, we can reach more people and provide our support. Thanks for watching!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *